I know that everyone is winding down for the holidays, but I came across
something this week that I need to share with you in order to help you make 2015 a successful fundraising year for you! As we gear up for 2015, a lot of you will be getting ready to ask for some serious donations. I'm here to share some major changes Facebook is making to how news feeds work, and to tell you how to adjust to make sure you are still getting much needed donation to find a cure for cancer.
To put it in a
nutshell (and without boring or confusing you with Facebook algorithms and how they work), I
have seen dramatic decreases in the amount of engagement in Relay
related Facebook posts over the last several months- including ones made
by Relay For Life pages for events (so, not just my personal page or
the Cancer Man Page). This has resulted in a massive decrease in donors
via Facebook (and will continue to). You see before now, I would tell you to go home, personalize your Relay page, and post links on Facebook to get your donations going. Unfortunately folks, it looks like Facebook isn't going to be your gold mine for donations the way it once was.
Starting January 1st, Facebook
will be making a change to what goes into individual news feeds. They
have already been rolling this out and testing it, which explains my
massive decrease in results. The goal is to 1) Make sure FB users are
seeing the content they want to see (and not feel like it is all page
advertisements, or in our case, asking for donations), and 2) to make
sure that businesses that want to be seen are PAYING to be seen. The
reason that is such a big problem is, of course, we are non profit, and
are not going to spend millions of dollars on advertising when we could
be curing cancer (and also, in my personal opinion they are a big fat
waste of money- see here- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oVfHeWTKjag).
In other words, because of Facebook algorithms going into place,
something like a picture of my Christmas card will easily get to the top
of news feeds, and get a lot of likes and comments (and, I do have an awesome card, but wait until you see the difference between the two posts).
However, a post I
make about needing a donation for Relay For Life may only be seen by a
few people, and chances are the people who do see it are going to be
fellow volunteers, not potential new donors.
Shout out to my boy Russell Keeler for the like!
The worst part is, these posts are from now- in January it will get worse.
If you would like to read the full release by Facebook you can read it here:
https://www.facebook.com/business/news/update-to-facebook-news-feed
It
is CRITICAL to our success that I get this information out to my fellow
volunteers! If we go into meetings and say, "YEAH! Just post it on
Facebook, everyone will donate!" volunteers are going to experience failure and
be very frustrated right off the bat. If it frustrated me, I know it's going to frustrate you.
Here's what you CAN do to increase your chances for success with personal donations in 2015.
-SEND SNAIL MAIL asking for donations this year.
Why snail mail? The image above says it all! How excited were you to get Christmas cards in the mail this year? Mailed donation requests should go out to everyone you have an address for- and then call your parents and ask to borrow their address book to. Hey, no shame- not going to apologize for curing cancer. If you send snail mail, it is at least going to get opened. With an email it may be automatically deleted, and on Facebook/Twitter/IG- scrolled through.
AND, if you are going to take the time to mail out the letters, then take the time to make your letter personal. The pre-made ones are great, but they don't tell YOUR story. If you want some letter ideas, I've got a blog post for that!
-Face to face interactions. I know, I know- who does that anymore? But guess what? Its time to bring it back baby! Have coffee with a friend and make an ask, ask your co-workers, ask your boss- TO THEIR FACE.
-Instead
of posting your Relay link on Facebook, and just saying, please help me cure
cancer! Post a video of you asking people to donate and telling your story. Why do you Relay? What services do we offer? Talk from the heart!
-Use
Facebook to redirect an ask. For example, someone like me who has a
blog would make the ask in a blog post. Then post a link to the blog on
Facebook with a catchy title like-Why I will not apologize for curing cancer (with a picture!!!)
-When you do make an ask on Facebook, you need to make it CREATIVE. Don't use a meme (a picture with text overlay like my warm fuzzy above will be buried with the new algorithm.) Remember the purple mustache challenge? That worked! It was creative and different, and got a lot of views and donations!
-If
you see another Relayer posting about a fundraiser, asking for
donations, etc, like and comment on it. This will tell the FB algorithm
that the content is interesting, and release it to more news feeds.
You guys all wonder why I am always commenting on your stuff, right?
Well now you know that I am not ACTUALLY a stalker, I just want you to be successful!
Now, I know you are thinking- holy crapola- what will work and what won't? Kevan Lee does a great job of explaining what the algorithm likes, and what it doesn't. Now, keep in mind, this may be much stricter come January, but it is a great starting point for those of you more interested in wrapping your head around this entire concept. See it here :)
I don't want you guys thinking that posting on Facebook for donations isn't worth it anymore- IT CAN BE, if you do it the right way. After all, even a small amount of donations is better than NO donations at all.
That being said, I DO want you guys to go into 2015 prepared. Be ready to do things a little differently than you have in the past, and be open to new ideas! We were amazing fundraisers BEFORE Facebook, and we can still be amazing fundraisers now.
So, let's open up this blog post for conversation. What has been working for you? Do you have any creative ideas? Share below so we can all benefit!
With Hope,
Cassi
Thursday, December 18, 2014
BIG Changes are coming to Facebook in January 2015 - and it effects Relayers - MUST READ INFO!
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Monday, December 15, 2014
Not every fundraiser is a smashing success, and that's ok!
So Cancer Man and I came up with the best fundraising idea ever for Christmas time (not the Poo-pourri, I am talking about the OTHER genius idea)
What do you get someone for Christmas that has EVERYTHING?
A Warm Fuzzy!
This idea came from a story Wes' friend Sheri Ingham told him in kindergarten. It goes like this:
The grouchy tourist told the islanders that their warm fuzzies were the most precious
Thank goodness something nice happened next. You see, one of the islanders had left
The good news is that we can be just like those islanders! We can give warm fuzzies,
So, last year Cancer Man kept bringing up this idea, but we just couldn't find poof-balls big enough. This year, we revisited the idea, but with a more creative outlook- how can we MAKE them big enough? We ended up buying roll after roll of yarn, googly eyes, and testing out different methods until we found one that worked! The final product was about 6" in diameter!
Then we posted on Facebook:
THIS FRIDAY, SATURDAY, AND SUNDAY ONLY! Make a donation of $25 or more to Cancer Man at http://www.main.acsevents.org/goto/CancerMan and Cancer Man will ship a gift wrapped Warm Fuzzy to a gift recipient (or you!), with a note saying you donated to Relay For Life on their behalf for Christmas. Cancer Man makes all of these himself! Give someone a gift with some major love in it that will help us support cancer patients, and help us find a cure for cancer!
Simply leave the name and address of the person you want it sent to in the "private note for the person you are supporting" section on the donate page, and we will do the rest! Thank you all for your support!
We thought SURELY we would have so many donors that we would be making warm fuzzies up until the last day we could ship them for Christmas delivery (and I know $25 is high, but I needed them to be substantial enough donations for me to cover the shipping costs out of my pocket).
Guess how many donors we had?
ZERO.
Yup, that's right, not a one. The good news is we have something REALLY cute to take cancer patients when we go visit them. Plus, we can always revisit the idea in the future, and I had a great time crafting with my favorite super hero :)
So, why am I telling you about our fail? Because, it is important for me to show you guys that even the big fundraisers stumble sometimes. Not every fundraiser is a smashing success. What matters is, we learn from it, find the good, and move on to the next thing. After all, you will never know what is going to work, and what isn't going to work unless you get out there and try SOMETHING.
So get out there and do it- #relaybig
With hope,
Cassi
What do you get someone for Christmas that has EVERYTHING?
A Warm Fuzzy!
This idea came from a story Wes' friend Sheri Ingham told him in kindergarten. It goes like this:
The Warm Fuzzy Story (adapted from Claude Steiner’s original tale)
Many years ago, on a little island, lived a bunch of happy people. They loved their
friendly little island with its beautiful trees, water, and sand. The islanders had a special
tradition of trading warm fuzzies with each other. Warm fuzzies were like little balls of pure
love that made everyone feel good all over.
People would offer warm fuzzies freely, and if you needed one all you had to do was
ask. Even people you didn’t know would reach into their pockets and pull out a warm fuzzy,
and just give it to you! Every warm fuzzy was like a big hug from a friend. And there were
always plenty of warm fuzzies to go around.
Everyone felt safe and loved and they all helped each other to feel safe and loved.
But one day a grouchy, grumbly, mumbly tourist came to visit the island. He didn’t
understand what everyone was doing but he was sure he didn’t like it. He kept cold prickles
in his pockets and warm fuzzies didn’t make any sense to him. So he decided that he would
tell a lie to the islanders, to convince them to stop with all that warm fuzzy business.
The grouchy tourist told the islanders that their warm fuzzies were the most precious
things in the world. He told them that instead of sharing them, they should be keeping them.
What if the world supply of warm fuzzies ran out? What would they do then?
All of a sudden the islanders began worrying and acting selfishly, keeping their warm
fuzzies to themselves. And a funny thing happened. When people stopped sharing their
warm fuzzies, people stopped receiving warm fuzzies. Instead of everyone feeling warm and
fuzzy inside, they started to feel cold and prickly inside. This made everyone kind of sad,
everyone except for that grouchy tourist that is.
Thank goodness something nice happened next. You see, one of the islanders had left
for college. She came home to visit and brought her warm fuzzies with her. When she
arrived home, she started giving warm fuzzies to everyone she saw. The islanders started to
realize what they were missing and that they had made a mistake. Holding onto their warm
fuzzies didn’t make them happier, it made them miserable. They figured out that giving their
warm fuzzies away not only made their friends happy, it made them happy too.
The good news is that we can be just like those islanders! We can give warm fuzzies,
like these cute little pom poms. But we can also give warm fuzzies that are sparkly, little,
fluffy, imaginary balls of happy. You see, when we offer a kind word or help someone to feel
better, that’s the best kind of warm fuzzy there is.So, last year Cancer Man kept bringing up this idea, but we just couldn't find poof-balls big enough. This year, we revisited the idea, but with a more creative outlook- how can we MAKE them big enough? We ended up buying roll after roll of yarn, googly eyes, and testing out different methods until we found one that worked! The final product was about 6" in diameter!
Then we posted on Facebook:
THIS FRIDAY, SATURDAY, AND SUNDAY ONLY! Make a donation of $25 or more to Cancer Man at http://www.main.acsevents.org/goto/CancerMan and Cancer Man will ship a gift wrapped Warm Fuzzy to a gift recipient (or you!), with a note saying you donated to Relay For Life on their behalf for Christmas. Cancer Man makes all of these himself! Give someone a gift with some major love in it that will help us support cancer patients, and help us find a cure for cancer!
Simply leave the name and address of the person you want it sent to in the "private note for the person you are supporting" section on the donate page, and we will do the rest! Thank you all for your support!
We thought SURELY we would have so many donors that we would be making warm fuzzies up until the last day we could ship them for Christmas delivery (and I know $25 is high, but I needed them to be substantial enough donations for me to cover the shipping costs out of my pocket).
Guess how many donors we had?
ZERO.
Yup, that's right, not a one. The good news is we have something REALLY cute to take cancer patients when we go visit them. Plus, we can always revisit the idea in the future, and I had a great time crafting with my favorite super hero :)
So, why am I telling you about our fail? Because, it is important for me to show you guys that even the big fundraisers stumble sometimes. Not every fundraiser is a smashing success. What matters is, we learn from it, find the good, and move on to the next thing. After all, you will never know what is going to work, and what isn't going to work unless you get out there and try SOMETHING.
So get out there and do it- #relaybig
With hope,
Cassi
Sunday, October 26, 2014
Fundraising With Noah's Art Workshop
This morning someone posted on Facebook that there were only 59 days left until Christmas.
WHOA!
I haven't even started THINKING about Christmas yet- even though Hobby Lobby is tempting me to with the Christmas section already up (ok, maybe I have thought about Christmas a little....)
And that got me thinking. People are going to spend money at Christmas buying gifts. Why not offer them gifts that ALSO support our cause of Relay For Life? We want them to spend that money with us instead of a mass retailer, how can we do that?
Ladies and gentleman, let me introduce you to Noah's Ark Workshop! It's like Build A Bear, but BETTER. I'll tell you why in just a minute.
But first- let me tell you where this idea came from, because this genius fundraiser wasn't my idea! My sister Relay For Life team, Orange Power, has two really smart ladies who already work in direct sales. Those two ladies are Traci Wile, and Bonny Moulton. They are the guru's of direct sales- and guess what? They follow the tried and true Relay advice of doing what you know. One day, Traci came across this fantastic website, and these two geniuses decided to turn it into a fundraiser.
They called me SO excited with the idea, and I was hooked right away. I was so interested, in fact, that I called Dina Amico from Noah's Art Workshop to tell her how the girls wanted to make this small idea into a BIG Relay fundraiser. Turns out, Dina was amazing, and full of amazing ideas herself. She offered to make a special program JUST for Relay For Life fundraisers- and I was SOLD on sharing the idea with all of you (with Bonny and Traci's permission, of course!)
Here are the details of the program:
Now- why is this better than Build A Bear?
1- Relay For Life gets the profit.
2- It's cheaper.
3- You bring the party TO your donors.
4- You have a website donors can order from so people can stuff them at home.
5- You can earn commission on people who sign up under you.
6- IT'S FREE to sign up!
Here are a few ways to make this fundraiser work for you.Team Orange Power did something really neat with the special edition pink bears. The decided to pre stuff the bears, and sold them ready to go at our Pink Out games, online, and in local stores. Here's my favorite part. They also offered people the option of buying a bear to have delivered to a breast cancer patient. Great right? A tangible gift they could love on that also helps fund research for their disease!
Well, I was all over that! I had just got an email from a friend who had been diagnosed. I knew EXACTLY what I could send her to make her smile. So, we called Bonny up and ordered her a bear. When it arrived, my son, Wes, took extra care with it, hugged it EXTRA hard, and said a little prayer to it to give Deb strength. It worked. I cried and cried when she got it in the mail, because it brought her so much HOPE.
You could also host a local party (think of places you could have it that are free- local churches, homes, or town halls!) have people RSVP and pay ahead of time, and order what you need! Imagine the fun little ones would have stuffing a special friend and taking it home THAT day! Or for Christmas- making them for a friend or sibling!
Dina also shared a brilliant idea. You can purchase little plush stars to put inside the bears. Use the stars as a fundraiser! First, choose an animal to stuff for a special person- perhaps a local cancer patient, a survivor, or a child in a local children's hospital. Sell each star for $5, and have the person buying it say a prayer over the star (or a wish for you non religious types), and have them sign a card. Then stuff the animal with all of those happy thoughts and prayers, and deliver it to the recipient. Genius, right?
Hold an online virtual party and promote it on Facebook! Donors buy from your website!
I know what you are thinking- OHHHHHH! We should have a Relay bear! Guess what? If there is enough interest, Dina can make that happen! Imagine a cute purple bear with a RFL logo on the foot!? EEK! I want one!
The opportunities here are virtually endless. If you have one, please comment below! It doesn't get better than this ladies and gentleman. Take a look at Noah's Art Workshop online, and you will be hooked to! I'm already building my Christmas shopping list! I know I will get a warm fuzzy by buying a gift that also helps my favorite cause :)
With HOPE-
Cassi
WHOA!
I haven't even started THINKING about Christmas yet- even though Hobby Lobby is tempting me to with the Christmas section already up (ok, maybe I have thought about Christmas a little....)
And that got me thinking. People are going to spend money at Christmas buying gifts. Why not offer them gifts that ALSO support our cause of Relay For Life? We want them to spend that money with us instead of a mass retailer, how can we do that?
Ladies and gentleman, let me introduce you to Noah's Ark Workshop! It's like Build A Bear, but BETTER. I'll tell you why in just a minute.
But first- let me tell you where this idea came from, because this genius fundraiser wasn't my idea! My sister Relay For Life team, Orange Power, has two really smart ladies who already work in direct sales. Those two ladies are Traci Wile, and Bonny Moulton. They are the guru's of direct sales- and guess what? They follow the tried and true Relay advice of doing what you know. One day, Traci came across this fantastic website, and these two geniuses decided to turn it into a fundraiser.
They called me SO excited with the idea, and I was hooked right away. I was so interested, in fact, that I called Dina Amico from Noah's Art Workshop to tell her how the girls wanted to make this small idea into a BIG Relay fundraiser. Turns out, Dina was amazing, and full of amazing ideas herself. She offered to make a special program JUST for Relay For Life fundraisers- and I was SOLD on sharing the idea with all of you (with Bonny and Traci's permission, of course!)
Here are the details of the program:
As a Relay For Life Team or
Individual, we would like to offer the following Fundraising Membership:
· *
Registration as a Fundraising Member is FREE
· *
35/40/45% OFF of retail prices on plush animals,
outfit and accessories
· *
40% OFF of promotional priced animals
· * Free Noah’s Ark replicated website with an
e-commerce shopping cart paying 35% commission on
all sales
· *
Product catalogs at wholesale prices
· * Access to our Graphics Art Department for
assistance in creating custom fundraising flyers, Facebook Banners and
promotional materials
· *
Option for customized teddy t-shirts with your organization
logo or fundraising message
· *
Workshop and product training and support
· *
Free Membership do not come with a Membership Kits *
Fundraising Memberships are eligible to earn
additional fundraising dollars through our traditional direct sales downline
commission payout. Simply sponsor a
Fundraising Member into Noah’s Ark, and earn additional funds for your
organization based on everything your downline team purchases.
GETTING STARTED
Simply call Dina at
1-866-484-6624 to register as a Fundraising Team or Member (**PLEASE SIGN UP
UNDER BONNY MOULTON SO YOU ARE IN A RELAY FOR LIFE DOWNLINE**). You will have immediate access to your
membership benefits with immediate website creation. Now- why is this better than Build A Bear?
1- Relay For Life gets the profit.
2- It's cheaper.
3- You bring the party TO your donors.
4- You have a website donors can order from so people can stuff them at home.
5- You can earn commission on people who sign up under you.
6- IT'S FREE to sign up!
Here are a few ways to make this fundraiser work for you.Team Orange Power did something really neat with the special edition pink bears. The decided to pre stuff the bears, and sold them ready to go at our Pink Out games, online, and in local stores. Here's my favorite part. They also offered people the option of buying a bear to have delivered to a breast cancer patient. Great right? A tangible gift they could love on that also helps fund research for their disease!
Well, I was all over that! I had just got an email from a friend who had been diagnosed. I knew EXACTLY what I could send her to make her smile. So, we called Bonny up and ordered her a bear. When it arrived, my son, Wes, took extra care with it, hugged it EXTRA hard, and said a little prayer to it to give Deb strength. It worked. I cried and cried when she got it in the mail, because it brought her so much HOPE.
·
You could also host a local party (think of places you could have it that are free- local churches, homes, or town halls!) have people RSVP and pay ahead of time, and order what you need! Imagine the fun little ones would have stuffing a special friend and taking it home THAT day! Or for Christmas- making them for a friend or sibling!
Dina also shared a brilliant idea. You can purchase little plush stars to put inside the bears. Use the stars as a fundraiser! First, choose an animal to stuff for a special person- perhaps a local cancer patient, a survivor, or a child in a local children's hospital. Sell each star for $5, and have the person buying it say a prayer over the star (or a wish for you non religious types), and have them sign a card. Then stuff the animal with all of those happy thoughts and prayers, and deliver it to the recipient. Genius, right?
Hold an online virtual party and promote it on Facebook! Donors buy from your website!
I know what you are thinking- OHHHHHH! We should have a Relay bear! Guess what? If there is enough interest, Dina can make that happen! Imagine a cute purple bear with a RFL logo on the foot!? EEK! I want one!
The opportunities here are virtually endless. If you have one, please comment below! It doesn't get better than this ladies and gentleman. Take a look at Noah's Art Workshop online, and you will be hooked to! I'm already building my Christmas shopping list! I know I will get a warm fuzzy by buying a gift that also helps my favorite cause :)
With HOPE-
Cassi
Monday, September 8, 2014
RFL 2015 is here! AKA- Chad writes the best "Why I Relay" pages EVER.
Our Relay For Life Of Custer County 2015 website went live last week (HAPPY DANCE!) Even though we Relay all year at my house, we always get excited when the website goes up, because we can see who all is returning to our team, all of the new teams... and of course we get to size up our competition ;) Just kidding Maria and Krisha.
Why I Relay!!!
Time once again for the relay excitement to begin. Well
officially that is. My family does Relay For Life all year, because we
have been touched by this group more than the words that I am going to
us in this message to you will ever be able to tell you. Every year I
sit in my chair and write out why we do what we do at the Selby
Household. So here we go- this is why we RELAY
R-------Represents
E-------Extreme
L-------Love
A-------All
Y-------Year
Six years ago my father was diagnosed with stomach cancer. It was at this time my life changed. At the time I was a young man running around without a since of reality what so ever. When I got the phone call from my mother letting me know that my father was in the hospital, I knew that there was something wrong. My father would never go to the doctor- let alone the hospital. So with no details I left OKC to travel back home to Arkansas to be with my family so we could find out what was going on. When I arrived they had discovered that my father had a tumor in his stomach that had grown to where it had 90% blockage of his esophagus. The moment I heard this was the only time I can remember feeling beaten. The man that was my family’s rock was sick, and none of us knew how to handle it.
Once we got our bearing, we all decided we were going to fight. We are Selby’s that is what we do. We may not win every time, but we never give up. I returned to Oklahoma, because my father said there was nothing I could do for him in Arkansas. This was a challenge for me. I felt helpless, and couldn’t concentrate on things. I couldn’t believe what kind of control my father illness had on me. Three weeks later I got a phone call from my father. It was a call that I will never forget. He was telling about what was going on with him, and that they had just put a feeding tube into his stomach, because he wasn’t able to swallow food. He had done his first round of chemo that was an in-patient week long ordeal. He was down and sounded like a man that had been through hell. He said, “Son I don’t know if I am going to be able to do this. I may need your help later down the road.”
I hate to admit this, but this was not an easy decision. I had recently started a relationship at the time with a wonderful woman. My heart wouldn’t let me abandon the man who had given me so much in my life. So I called my girlfriend to try to explain to her why I had to leave her in Oklahoma while I moved back to Arkansas to help my family. She didn’t even hesitate. She told me if I stayed in Oklahoma, I wouldn’t be the man she wanted to date. With that, I put my career on hold by taking a step down so that I could be with my family.
With that the worst year of my life started. There are so many details that I could put here that honestly I still to this day don’t believe I can really think about. Things that I watched, things that I wished I could close my eyes and forget, but when I do close my eyes they still to this day flash at me in a horrible nightmare that doesn’t seem to stop. So, I will not go into them. I will say that the saying “You are stronger because you lived through it” is the most untrue thing I have ever heard. I watched cancer destroy the strongest man I have ever known in a blink of an eye. When he started treatment he was at least 180lbs, and towards the end he was lucky if he was 90lbs. After a year of battling this horrible disease my father passed away.
There was a glimmer of good that came out of this situation. The woman that I was dating in Oklahoma decided that she didn’t want me to fight this battle alone. She moved to Arkansas and brought her 2 year old son with her. She was truly amazing at helping with the caregiving that my father required. We had to do things in shifts when my mother and I were at work she would care for him, and then we would take up when we got off work.
This was not our only battle with cancer in my life. When I was five my mother also had cancer. Back than we were nowhere near the advance medicine that we have today (thanks in a big part to American Cancer Society’s funding of research to develop new drugs and treatments). She went through countless treatments of radiation and other things that I was honestly too young to remember. I can say that my earliest memories as a child is of walking down St. Edwards Hospitals to see my mother in a hospital room countless times.
My mother won her battle with cancer that time, but not without her battle scars. She ended up with major heart issues from the radiation that was used to battle the disease. We didn’t find out until 10 years later about the damage that was caused. When we were told that the walls of her heart were paper thin, the doctor said that is why you probably struggle with things around the house such as vacuuming and anything that requires physical activity. My whole family laughs at this. At that time in my mother was mowing the 4 acres of land that we owned every weekend, throwing bags of grass over the fence to the cows, and many other amazing things. Truly the strongest women on earth.
A year ago they found cancer in my mothers leg. Her outlook on it was about the same as my dad’s- well time to start fighting. She went to the Mayo Clinic, and started getting doctors opinions on how to treat her cancer. They found that the only real way to get rid of the cancer was to do a full knee replacement including some of her thigh bone. She went through the procedure and the healing of the complete knee replacement. She went through this at the age of 60 which is amazing to me- I don’t believe I could do it now. After only 3 weeks post op, she went back to work. Something that the doctors told her would take her at least two months.
One week before our Relay For Life last year I got another phone call from my mother saying that she wasn’t feeling good, and was going to go ahead and go to the doctor. She said that it had been a struggle to get to and from work all week and wanted to feel better before she had to return to work on Monday. I said, “Well I am going to go to be on vacation. I’ll drive down and see you.” On the way down they admitted my mother into the hospital because of her heart. She passed away at 4:00 am that morning. The doctors say that her heart just finally gave out. I would also like to say as a testament to my mother resolve the week before my mothers passing she missed one day of work. Can you imagine doing that? Your heart and liver failing and you are at work because that is what you do. Such an amazing woman. As a matter of fact the love that my mother had in her heart was amazing. An hour before she passed away, she was lecturing me (something she did very well I may add) about getting some sleep, because I had been up for 24 hours, and she didn’t want me to be too tired. What an amazing women she was. The loss of this great woman is a tragic loss to the world. Cancer may not have been the bullet that killed my mother, but it was the gun that fired the bullet.
This is why we Relay. To give people hope. Fighting the good fight can make a difference. You may say that my story doesn’t sound as if there is a chance to win against cancer. Well, to that I say you are wrong. This is how my family thinks of CANCER.
C------Create
A------A
Anyway, Chad (my husband) always writes the most amazing "Why I Relay" story every year for his page. It's kind of a tradition for him- each year he sits down in his big ol brown recliner and writes a post explaining what Relay means to him at the moment. After losing his mom this year- I am sure it was harder than ever.
So, not to put him on front street or anything, but you guys should totally read this. You can see his actual relay page here (and that's also where you can donate to him- hint hint) ENJOY!
XO
Cassi
So, not to put him on front street or anything, but you guys should totally read this. You can see his actual relay page here (and that's also where you can donate to him- hint hint) ENJOY!
XO
Cassi
Why I Relay!!!
R-------Represents
E-------Extreme
L-------Love
A-------All
Y-------Year
Six years ago my father was diagnosed with stomach cancer. It was at this time my life changed. At the time I was a young man running around without a since of reality what so ever. When I got the phone call from my mother letting me know that my father was in the hospital, I knew that there was something wrong. My father would never go to the doctor- let alone the hospital. So with no details I left OKC to travel back home to Arkansas to be with my family so we could find out what was going on. When I arrived they had discovered that my father had a tumor in his stomach that had grown to where it had 90% blockage of his esophagus. The moment I heard this was the only time I can remember feeling beaten. The man that was my family’s rock was sick, and none of us knew how to handle it.
Once we got our bearing, we all decided we were going to fight. We are Selby’s that is what we do. We may not win every time, but we never give up. I returned to Oklahoma, because my father said there was nothing I could do for him in Arkansas. This was a challenge for me. I felt helpless, and couldn’t concentrate on things. I couldn’t believe what kind of control my father illness had on me. Three weeks later I got a phone call from my father. It was a call that I will never forget. He was telling about what was going on with him, and that they had just put a feeding tube into his stomach, because he wasn’t able to swallow food. He had done his first round of chemo that was an in-patient week long ordeal. He was down and sounded like a man that had been through hell. He said, “Son I don’t know if I am going to be able to do this. I may need your help later down the road.”
I hate to admit this, but this was not an easy decision. I had recently started a relationship at the time with a wonderful woman. My heart wouldn’t let me abandon the man who had given me so much in my life. So I called my girlfriend to try to explain to her why I had to leave her in Oklahoma while I moved back to Arkansas to help my family. She didn’t even hesitate. She told me if I stayed in Oklahoma, I wouldn’t be the man she wanted to date. With that, I put my career on hold by taking a step down so that I could be with my family.
With that the worst year of my life started. There are so many details that I could put here that honestly I still to this day don’t believe I can really think about. Things that I watched, things that I wished I could close my eyes and forget, but when I do close my eyes they still to this day flash at me in a horrible nightmare that doesn’t seem to stop. So, I will not go into them. I will say that the saying “You are stronger because you lived through it” is the most untrue thing I have ever heard. I watched cancer destroy the strongest man I have ever known in a blink of an eye. When he started treatment he was at least 180lbs, and towards the end he was lucky if he was 90lbs. After a year of battling this horrible disease my father passed away.
There was a glimmer of good that came out of this situation. The woman that I was dating in Oklahoma decided that she didn’t want me to fight this battle alone. She moved to Arkansas and brought her 2 year old son with her. She was truly amazing at helping with the caregiving that my father required. We had to do things in shifts when my mother and I were at work she would care for him, and then we would take up when we got off work.
This was not our only battle with cancer in my life. When I was five my mother also had cancer. Back than we were nowhere near the advance medicine that we have today (thanks in a big part to American Cancer Society’s funding of research to develop new drugs and treatments). She went through countless treatments of radiation and other things that I was honestly too young to remember. I can say that my earliest memories as a child is of walking down St. Edwards Hospitals to see my mother in a hospital room countless times.
My mother won her battle with cancer that time, but not without her battle scars. She ended up with major heart issues from the radiation that was used to battle the disease. We didn’t find out until 10 years later about the damage that was caused. When we were told that the walls of her heart were paper thin, the doctor said that is why you probably struggle with things around the house such as vacuuming and anything that requires physical activity. My whole family laughs at this. At that time in my mother was mowing the 4 acres of land that we owned every weekend, throwing bags of grass over the fence to the cows, and many other amazing things. Truly the strongest women on earth.
A year ago they found cancer in my mothers leg. Her outlook on it was about the same as my dad’s- well time to start fighting. She went to the Mayo Clinic, and started getting doctors opinions on how to treat her cancer. They found that the only real way to get rid of the cancer was to do a full knee replacement including some of her thigh bone. She went through the procedure and the healing of the complete knee replacement. She went through this at the age of 60 which is amazing to me- I don’t believe I could do it now. After only 3 weeks post op, she went back to work. Something that the doctors told her would take her at least two months.
One week before our Relay For Life last year I got another phone call from my mother saying that she wasn’t feeling good, and was going to go ahead and go to the doctor. She said that it had been a struggle to get to and from work all week and wanted to feel better before she had to return to work on Monday. I said, “Well I am going to go to be on vacation. I’ll drive down and see you.” On the way down they admitted my mother into the hospital because of her heart. She passed away at 4:00 am that morning. The doctors say that her heart just finally gave out. I would also like to say as a testament to my mother resolve the week before my mothers passing she missed one day of work. Can you imagine doing that? Your heart and liver failing and you are at work because that is what you do. Such an amazing woman. As a matter of fact the love that my mother had in her heart was amazing. An hour before she passed away, she was lecturing me (something she did very well I may add) about getting some sleep, because I had been up for 24 hours, and she didn’t want me to be too tired. What an amazing women she was. The loss of this great woman is a tragic loss to the world. Cancer may not have been the bullet that killed my mother, but it was the gun that fired the bullet.
This is why we Relay. To give people hope. Fighting the good fight can make a difference. You may say that my story doesn’t sound as if there is a chance to win against cancer. Well, to that I say you are wrong. This is how my family thinks of CANCER.
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N------New
C------Change
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R-------Relay
The way we have won is because we have grown. The woman that moved to Arkansas to help me is now my wife. We have a son that is named Wes- some of you may know him as Cancer Man. The super hero that has dedicated his life to winning the fight against cancer through Relay For Life. Last year he raised over $7,000 dollars on his own towards winning the fight against cancer. My favorite saying that he has is “I’m eight, what’s your excuse?” With that being said, I don’t think any of us can have anything to say about that except your right I better get started. Every day I watch what he does, and it warms my heart to think I have had a hand in raising this amazing boy, soon to be a man. It reminds me of the great things about my parents, because through him he helps me forget the last couple of years filled with bad memories.
With that being said Relay For Life is all about hope. Hope for a cure, hope that there is an end in sight, and hope that one day peoples lives will not dramatically change because of cancer. So what do you say? Lets help other people have HOPE!!
H-------Hope
O-------Offers
P--------People
E--------Everything!!!!!!!!!!!
Thank You,
Chad
E-------Every
R-------Relay
The way we have won is because we have grown. The woman that moved to Arkansas to help me is now my wife. We have a son that is named Wes- some of you may know him as Cancer Man. The super hero that has dedicated his life to winning the fight against cancer through Relay For Life. Last year he raised over $7,000 dollars on his own towards winning the fight against cancer. My favorite saying that he has is “I’m eight, what’s your excuse?” With that being said, I don’t think any of us can have anything to say about that except your right I better get started. Every day I watch what he does, and it warms my heart to think I have had a hand in raising this amazing boy, soon to be a man. It reminds me of the great things about my parents, because through him he helps me forget the last couple of years filled with bad memories.
With that being said Relay For Life is all about hope. Hope for a cure, hope that there is an end in sight, and hope that one day peoples lives will not dramatically change because of cancer. So what do you say? Lets help other people have HOPE!!
H-------Hope
O-------Offers
P--------People
E--------Everything!!!!!!!!!!!
Thank You,
Chad
Saturday, May 31, 2014
Relay For Life - Easy Summer Fundraising with Direct Sales
But the problem is, cancer doesn't take the summer off.
Imagine how much MORE we could raise for American Cancer Society of we did just one summer fundraiser each.
So today, I want to encourage you to get out there and do just one summer fundraiser that you wouldn't have done before while taking a few months off. The best part? I have a list of some awesome direct sales people who are willing to do parties for you, and give a portion of the profit back to you for Relay For Life. Why is this so awesome? Most of these companies are rock stars at setting up a party for you online. You invite your friends to shop, shop yourself, and stay at home in your PJ's while raising funds to cure cancer. This my friends, is as easy as it gets(and you know how I like my PJs!)!
Now, keep in mind this list has been made for teams in the Oklahoma area, however, if you found this blog through pinterest, many if not all of these vendors can probably help you out by setting up an online party for you as well!
So take a peek at the list below and pick out one that you would love to buy stuff from anyway, and make it happen! If you are in the direct sales business and would like to be included in this list, please comment below with:
Your name
Your company
Your website
Your phone number
Your email
What percentage will go to Relay For Life
Your company
Your website
Your phone number
Your email
What percentage will go to Relay For Life
Name: Vallerie sheldon
Company: Tupperware
Website: www.my2.tupperware.com/valleriesheldon
Phone: 580-481-0427
Email: Raiwen79@gmail.com
Percentage that will go to Relay For Life: 40% goes to organization
Company: Tupperware
Website: www.my2.tupperware.com/valleriesheldon
Phone: 580-481-0427
Email: Raiwen79@gmail.com
Percentage that will go to Relay For Life: 40% goes to organization
Name: Jami Burnes
Company: Thirty One Gifts
Website: www.mythirtyone.com/jamiburnes
Phone: 409-454-0720
Email: eeyore1809@yahoo.com
Percentage that will go to Relay For Life: Up to 50% commission depending on the fundraiser
Name: Danelle Delp
Company: Scentsy
Website: Https://danelledelp.scentsy.us
Email: Danelle4yall@aol.com
Phone: (405)203-7333
Percentage that will go to Relay For Life: 75% of commission donated! (The remaining percent is to cover her cost of materials provided)
Name: Debra Gamble
Company: Pampered Chef
Website: www.pamperedchef.biz/debragamble
Phone: 509-855-3555
Email: Pcdeb13@gmail.com
Percentage that will go to Relay For Life: 15-25%
Name: Bonny Moulton
Company: Velata
Phone: 580 302 1774
Email: fonduefun7@yahoo.com
Website: http://bonnymoulton.velata.us
Percentage that will go to Relay For Life: 100% of commission
Name: Erika Cerda
Company: Jamberry Nails
Website: buynow.jamberrynails.net
Phone: 405.474.5152
Email: Inexorable@gmail.com
Percentage that will go to Relay For Life: Base 10% but can go up to 25% depending on sales, the extra would be my commission which is cool. We could do it entirely online or we can host an in person party alongside it
Name: Jennifer Mandell - I sell Origami owl - I
have already done a fundraiser for Cassi. :-) Cancer took my Mom from me 14
years ago so I am always happy to help out! I donate 50% proceeds to your cause
and the other 50% goes to my Autism cause.
Company: Origami Owl
Website: http://samsvoice.origamiowl.com/
Email: JenniferMandell@optonline.net
Designer# 25818
Name: Teri Tolbert (Teri is a breast cancer survivor!)
Company: Origami Owl
Independent Designer
#40037
Website: teritolbert.origamiowl.com
Email: teri.tolbert@yahoo.com
Phone: 580-668-0369
Percentage that will go to Relay For Life: 20% of total sales
If someone wants to actually host a party, I'll do 25% of total sales.
Company: Origami Owl
Website: http://samsvoice.origamiowl.com/
Email: JenniferMandell@optonline.net
Designer# 25818
Name: Teri Tolbert (Teri is a breast cancer survivor!)
Company: Origami Owl
Independent Designer
#40037
Website: teritolbert.origamiowl.com
Email: teri.tolbert@yahoo.com
Phone: 580-668-0369
Percentage that will go to Relay For Life: 20% of total sales
If someone wants to actually host a party, I'll do 25% of total sales.
Name: Brandi Walstrom
Company: O2 Origami Owl
designer #43365
Website: brandiw.origamiowl.com
Phone: Denver, CO 720-369-4482
Email: walstrombn@hotmail.com
Percentage that will go to Relay: 50%
Company: O2 Origami Owl
designer #43365
Website: brandiw.origamiowl.com
Phone: Denver, CO 720-369-4482
Email: walstrombn@hotmail.com
Percentage that will go to Relay: 50%
Name: Kayla Shantz
Company: Damsel in Defense
Website: Www.mydamselpro.net/okiedamsel
Phone: (580) 819-3085
Email: Okiedamselpro@gmail. Com
Percentage that will go to Relay For Life: 60% of commission
Name: Ashley Dickens
Company: Plexus Worldwide
Website: http://www.facebook.com/l/sAQG6vS8TAQFna4ZAXhel-ztRdqnuM_AoWXU1iQR7470--Q/www.plexusslim.com/AshleyMarie
Phone: 580-302-2598
Email: AshleyDickens.Plexus@gmail.com
Percentage that will go to Relay For Life: 50%
Company: Damsel in Defense
Website: Www.mydamselpro.net/okiedamsel
Phone: (580) 819-3085
Email: Okiedamselpro@gmail. Com
Percentage that will go to Relay For Life: 60% of commission
Name: Ashley Dickens
Company: Plexus Worldwide
Website: http://www.facebook.com/l/sAQG6vS8TAQFna4ZAXhel-ztRdqnuM_AoWXU1iQR7470--Q/www.plexusslim.com/AshleyMarie
Phone: 580-302-2598
Email: AshleyDickens.Plexus@gmail.com
Percentage that will go to Relay For Life: 50%
Magic Memories Mayhem: Jessica is a Disney travel agent who will give a portion of her commission to Relay For Life if you and your friends use her for booking your vacations! She is my personal travel agent, and I can honestly highly recommend her to you. You can email her at magicmemoriesandmayhem@live.com or visit her website at http://www.magicamemoriesmayhem.com
Gold Party:
Now, this is one that I have told you all about before, and I really love it. Shelly with Party of Gold will come to you, and all you have to do is invite your friends to come over and sell their old, unwanted gold. Instead of spending money, you and your friends will MAKE money! Shelly writes them a check on the spot, and your Relay team gets a percentage of her commission. It may not seem like a lot, but let me tell you- it adds up FAST. Besides, who doesn't like making money while helping a good cause? My team has done this one, and it is definitely on our list to repeat again. Be sure to tell her I sent you, because she also gives $50 for each referred party that does over $400 in sales to your cause!
Name: Shelly Collins
Company: Party of Gold
Website: partyofgold.com
Email: shelly@partyofgold.com
Phone: 405-371-8784
Now, this is one that I have told you all about before, and I really love it. Shelly with Party of Gold will come to you, and all you have to do is invite your friends to come over and sell their old, unwanted gold. Instead of spending money, you and your friends will MAKE money! Shelly writes them a check on the spot, and your Relay team gets a percentage of her commission. It may not seem like a lot, but let me tell you- it adds up FAST. Besides, who doesn't like making money while helping a good cause? My team has done this one, and it is definitely on our list to repeat again. Be sure to tell her I sent you, because she also gives $50 for each referred party that does over $400 in sales to your cause!
Name: Shelly Collins
Company: Party of Gold
Website: partyofgold.com
Email: shelly@partyofgold.com
Phone: 405-371-8784
Let me know which one you choose if you are part of Relay For Life of Custer County, and I will be sure to help you get the word out!
Happy Relaying friends!
Cassi
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